How I Keep it 'Real' in the World of Instagram

Wednesday, April 18, 2018 Montreal, QC, Canada

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In a world where likes, views, and shares seem to be more important than anything else, how do we stay true to ourselves if we’re always trying to reach “instagram” perfection?


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Social media has become more than a way to share photos amongst friends and family. I mean for a growing group of people, it has become the main source of income as well as their job. The rise of social media fame and gaining a following has taken over the world. Every day it seems like there’s a new viral video and each year we discuss who has had the most talked about photo (based on how many likes it received). Yeah instagram is still fun, but it can be stressful and a source of anxiety for a lot of people. After my birthday, I decided to take some time away from social media which ended up being 2 months. At the time, I was really focusing on the biggest competition for dance, but at the same time I just had this overwhelming feeling like I needed a break. Instead of being excited sharing photos and sharing moments that were important to me, Instagram was becoming a stressor. I would open my feed and scroll through it to see photo after photo of a beautiful blogger or model, seeing people I knew personally getting more attention, and I would feel this anxiety build up in my chest. Why didn’t I look like these girls, why couldn’t I be as popular, and why bother posting if no one even cared. I didn’t realize it at first, but I was equating my self worth to how popular I was on instagram. I was harsher on myself and instead of being proud of the work of other people I admired and were once inspired by, suddenly there was only negative energy and feelings towards them. 

How did I get here? Who was I becoming, if I was so worried about something as trivial as likes on a photo. Now it’s one thing to try and boost engagement, because as a small blogger social media is such an important tool to use and you want to use it to benefit your work, but I never want to look at a photo and think “wow this must be a bad photo” just because people didn’t physically double tap on it. Never did I think I would become this person, but this is a side effect of using social media. Instagram should come with a warning; “Warning if you are experiencing low self esteem, please stay away from this app”. It almost seems like everyone is living their best life. Everyone is either travelling the world, spending $$$ on expensive clothes and other items, or have the perfect bodies. Even if you’re feeling you’re absolute best, instagram has the ability to bring out your hidden insecurities. 

To be completely honest with you, the reason I decided to go back to social media was because I was offered an amazing opportunity with a brand. When I got the offer, I knew that I would have to reopen all of my accounts, but this time it was going to be different. My instagram (and all social media really) was going to be for myself. My goal was to look at and see that it represents exactly who I am, not the perfect version I want you to believe. I want it to be fun again even if I use it for updating and sharing my work from this blog. 

For all of you who have ever felt overwhelmed by social media, here are my top tips on how I keep it real: 


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Minimal Editing of Photos


The main way I keep it real with you all is to keep the editing of my photos down to a minimum. At this point, my photos are edited to keep the colour palette of my grid cohesive. Personally, I find it more appealing to the eye when someone looks at my whole page. It’s also a colour palette that I believe compliments me and majority of my clothes / life. I think it’s really easy to get caught up in using apps like Facetune or other photoshop apps to hide and alter any imperfections, but in reality that isn’t me then. The whole purpose of me even sharing my personal thoughts and opinions is because I am a real person and I am unique, but I can’t be my unique self if my face has been completely changed. Ultimately I think to myself when editing that if you were to see me in person, I hope you could recognize me from my photos. If you’re looking to slightly edit your photos I love apps like Snapseed or VSCO. My tip to you is “less is more” because you don’t want to be that person who has their real identity and then their social media identity. 


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Follow those you Love and make you feel Inspired (NOT Self Conscious) 

This was a HUGE change I made to my social media when I returned after my mini hiatus. Obviously the people you follow online are those who interest you somehow, but what I realized was that there were certain accounts which didn’t add anything positive to my life and if anything triggered negative feelings or thoughts. Examples of this would include fitness accounts that constantly posted unrealistic photos of bodies or celebrities who I followed because everyone else did. Instead, I want my social media to be filled with people who inspire me, other bloggers who work so hard for their content, and of course family and friends! Reality is we’re constantly on our phones scrolling through our apps and what we see can affect our thoughts, mood, and overall wellbeing. I decided that in order to keep my social media experience positive, I focus my social media on those who bring out positive vibes and live a lifestyle that I believe in and am inspired by. Anyone who doesn’t check off those boxes stay away from my screen, because I’ve learnt that nothing good comes from those profiles. 


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Take a break, there’s more to Life than the Gram

Finally, you control how much social media affects your life by how much you’re online. Maintaining a balance is so important for my mental health and overall well being. Instead of obsessing over what everyone else is doing, focus on what you can do for yourself. Like I said in point two, I follow people who leave me feeling inspired, so I take those moments and put them to use. Working on my own content, spending time with friends, working out, and even just enjoying time with family allows me to maintain balance. Instead of living vicariously through the photos of other people, I want to make my own memories. Often the moments that aren’t captured in a photo are too good to share, because I was actually experiencing them. Life is worth living and sometimes that means putting your phone away. 


If I could finish with any advice it would be to remember that a photo is only a minuscule moment of someone’s life. You can’t base everything on it, because no one’s life is as perfect as what is captured online. Instead of comparing your entire life to a photo that took less than a minute to take, remember that your self worth comes from what impression you leave in this world. Who you are, what you do, and the achievements you reach are what make you unique and that’s worth more than any photo online. 

I hope this was helpful, because we’ve all been there and we’ve all felt like crap thanks to social media. It’s remembering who you are in real life which matters most. 

OOTD:

Blazer: Zara 
T-Shirt: Forever 21
Jeans: H&M (similar)
Bag: Forever21
Shoes: Nike (similar)


spring style, ootd, fashion, street style, forever21, Zara, H&M, Nike, fashion blogger, Montreal, Canada, instagram, influencer

spring style, ootd, fashion, street style, forever21, Zara, H&M, Nike, fashion blogger, Montreal, Canada, instagram, influencer



3 comments

  1. Great perspective! I love the advice to follow what inspires you!

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    1. It has made such a difference in my experience with social media! Thank you for the lovely comment :)

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  2. Nice blazer you've got! A pretty nice choice for underlining your individuality. I personally believe that blue blazers are the most coolest layering pieces invented in fashion, as they can be worn with absolutely anything to anywhere. It's a universal clothing staple. I also wanted to share some ideas about blue blazers, as I made a blog post about them, check it: http://onlywardrobe.com/womens-fashion/what-to-wear-with-blue-blazers-from-pastel-to-navy-colors/ Hope these ideas will help others to create a fancy new look!
    Xx,
    DestinyGirl

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