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Friday, August 11, 2017

One Year Older: Here's What I've Learnt

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I don’t know about you, but I'm feeling…twenty three? What a weird age to reach. I'm slowly approaching the dreaded quarter life crisis, yet I still look younger than most eighteen year olds. I used to equate age with various goals or life events. When I was a child, all of us girls would discuss our futures and how we would all be engaged by twenty five or twenty six and life would be magical because we would have our careers and future all planned out. For a lack of better expression… LOL. If anything this past year has taught me the complete opposite. My whole year of being twenty two has been anything but planned. There were some highlights like graduating from university, travelling, getting my new dog, etc. but if I really think about it there wasn’t anything substantial that changed in my life. What twenty two did bring were life lessons and a whole bunch of growth. Learning from my previous mistakes and choices pushed me to make major life decisions that I never imagined for myself. This post isn’t a scream for help or an existential crisis. If anything what I wanted to share with you were the lessons I have learned over the past 12 months of being twenty two. 


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blogger, style, reflection, lifestyle, Montreal, fashion, west mount, forever 21, Zara, Kate spade

blogger, style, reflection, lifestyle, Montreal, fashion, west mount, forever 21, Zara, Kate spade
Lesson 1: Listen to your gut 

This seems really obvious, but think how many times have you asked someone the dreaded “what should I do”? How many times have you frantically texted and called all of your close friends and family in hopes that their advice would be the answer to your doubt? We all do this, but I found myself becoming too dependent on the thoughts of everyone who surrounded me. During my bachelor’s degree I did have a hard time and wanted to quit because I wasn’t happy. Instead of listening to my gut I relied on other people which led me to continuing despite my reluctance. I am happy that I graduated and pulled through, but looking back I often wonder that if I had listened to myself what my current situation would be. Sitting at my graduation ceremony I had three hours of self thought and reflection and by the end of it I knew my next move. I knew that the graduate program I was currently enrolled in wasn’t for me. Within only a few days of attending I was told I wouldn't make it if I continued dancing. The stress and anxiety already seemed like too much when I was supposed to be excited about the future. I walked out of that graduation ceremony with my diploma in hand knowing I wouldn’t be returning to complete my graduate diploma. For the first time I was really able to sit with my thoughts and be okay with the idea that I knew what I needed to do whether people agreed with it or not. I could no longer sit back in hopes that things would change and I would learn to love it like I previously did for my Bachelor degree. 


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blogger, style, reflection, lifestyle, Montreal, fashion, west mount, forever 21, Zara, Kate spade
Lesson 2: Self Love 

I always agreed with self love and building yourself up and for the most part I thought I was my biggest fan. What I realized during this past year was that even if I wanted the best for myself, I didn’t always know how to take care of myself. I was on this mission to follow the saying “positive mind, positive life”. Any sort of negative thought or worry was thrown aside because I was scared that if I allowed myself to feel that way I would be back to that overly anxious and stressed girl I was in my early teens. I had to take a step back from trying to keep everything perfect. I had to stop overtraining my body when I wasn’t feeding it what it needed to work properly. I had to stop looking at myself and constantly obsess over looking stronger and fitter and instead see a healthy human being that needs balance. Most importantly I needed to care more about my overall happiness instead of placing it second to what and who I thought I should become. Self love isn’t just looking at yourself in the mirror and saying I love you, it’s actually loving every part of yourself and accepting both good and bad. 


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blogger, style, reflection, lifestyle, Montreal, fashion, west mount, forever 21, Zara, Kate spade
Lesson 3: Life is Unpredictable and that’s okay 

As I’m writing this post I also have multiple tabs open for possible jobs I’m applying for, an online master’s degree I could potentially be interested in all while my dance playlist is playing so I can mentally grasp new choreography. My life doesn’t really have a plan right now, but the more I sit with it the more I feel okay about not knowing what the future holds. For as long as I can remember I have always been a planner. I had to go to this specific school for a certain degree for that “dream” job where I would be “happy” making a great salary to afford the “dream” lifestyle. Reality, as of right now, is that my competitive dance career is only getting better and at a faster rate because I enjoy what I do. I love that I can wake up and train, then go to class, and share with other people what I love to do. I also love that I have the time to work on this blog which I never thought would actually happen let alone be growing in viewership like it is. My life to most people might seem like I’m going nowhere or I’m lost, but I’m really just keeping the door open to as many possibilities as I can. 



Lesson 4: Follow your Passions

Along with lesson 3, I really need to follow a path in life that is going to combine all of the things I am passionate about. There has been a lot of soul searching in the sense that I have to be brutally honest with myself as to what I want to do in the future. Even if it’s scary I can’t see myself pursuing anything that doesn’t allow me to be 100% true to myself.

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blogger, style, reflection, lifestyle, Montreal, fashion, west mount, forever 21, Zara, Kate spade
Lesson 5: Appreciate the Now 

Above all, I have really tried to appreciate the here and now. I was someone that would dread and focus on the past while worrying about the future for just about everything. Appreciating the good that each day brings has allowed my to keep a mindset that doesn’t miss out on life while still having goals and dreams for the future. I think if we all take some time to appreciate and express some gratitude for what you accomplish in a day or for taking some time to pause and relax would change our outlook on life. I’m no longer forcing a positive mind frame. Instead, by appreciating the good and taking the bad as it comes, I can have a balanced mindset. 

















I originally said nothing significant has happened, but this past year has brought self acceptance and an appreciation for life. I’m not trying to be cheesy, I’m now working on having a different perspective to getting older. I don’t want to live my life trying to appease to expectations that I’ve previously placed on myself or from anyone else. Each day I can honestly say that a weight has been lifted off my shoulders as I keep choosing my own happiness. So do I have any plans for twenty three? I have one and that’s to keep going on this path because I’m only excited for what life has to offer. 


 - Outfit Details - 
Dress - Forever 21
Chambray Shirt - Forever 21
Sneakers - Keds x Kate Spade
Bag - Zara 

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8 comments :

  1. Totally agree with you on 1 and 4. Anything is possible!

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  2. I love this look! And the bag is so cute :)

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  3. 1. Listen to your gut
    Interestingly enough, science tells us that our gut bacteria is unique to each individual and said bacteria is linked to our brains. So when people say they have a 'gut-feeling' they are actually describing a real visceral reaction that occurs when our brains are processing information and link our thoughts to our stomach. Fascinating!

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    1. What an interesting scientific approach!

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  4. Wow these are some amazing things to learn in your life and to learn them so early on is so important.

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    1. Thank you, every day is an opportunity to learn something new!

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